This week I thought I would give you my best long distance relationship tips.
Number 1 - define goals and expectations to each other. This is really important because maybe one person wants, like, an open thing, and the other one wants to get engaged or whatnot. You need to define what you want out of it, and it's really important to do in the beginning, so that doesn't really come out after a while and it's like 'I know I'm dating you, John, but I would really like to date five dudes at the same time. Like, some grampas. I'm dating my own gram - :)
Number 2 - trust your partner and make it easy for your partner to trust you. This one sort of ties in to the last one, and it's like: If you can't trust the other person there's no point in being in a relationship. If I need to check up on John so that she doesn't go out with five other... Grampas at the same time as she's going out with me, then we don't have a good relationship and we should probably not be in that relationship anymore.
Number 3 - communicate and keep up to date with each other's lives. This one is probably the most important of them all. For me and John it's probably mostly phone calls. I tend to call her every ten minutes and I ask her what kind of footwear I should wear, what t-shirt, like, she, she chose thi- I don't do that either because that would step over the boundries I guess. So basically we keep in touch a few times during the day, but like to an extent where we're both happy about the amount of time.
Number 4- celebrate events together and have online dates. I like this one really much, and when we celebrated six months, me and John, I sort of prepared this little online date thing. For example I did like a crossword with a crossword generator with all our inside jokes and stuff that I got her to solve, and I looked through different games and stuff that we could play and I found the best ones. I'm gonna link you to some games down below. It can be whatever, from madlibs to MMO-RPG:s, whatever makes you happy and that you both like. And of course, when celebrating and stuff it's really important, I think, to have video calls. It's such a great invention and just to see eachother's faces when you talk, you know, so that I call John out on eating her boogers. She doesn't eat her boogers. Sorry, my sense of humor is really weird . Anyway, I can call John out on eating her boogers and you know, just... She's not gonna be happy about this, about this joke. Let's move on MAMBO NUMBAH ...
Number 5 - plan when you meet in real life again. This one is one of my favorites, because I live in Sweden, John lives in the UK, so it's always the best feeling when you've planned and... I have my tickets ready for my next visit to the UK right now actually. I read a study in, I think in New York Times, the study was somewhere else but I read an article about it in the New York Times, and they talked about how when you plan a vacation, how you're the most happy while planning and not when actually going on the vacation. I don't think it's like that when I go to John, but it certainly like, it really ups your happiness level when you have it planned and you have the tickets booked.
Number 6 - make the most of your time in real life together. I could very easily go to the UK and be with John and we'd just like, watch movies and eat candy and be all gross for like a week. But at the same time, when you are with your loved one, then you really wanna like feel like you're living life and not just doing something you could do at home, like if we watch a movie and we say three words to eachother.
Number 7 - give your partner a personal item of yours to hold on to. Personally, I gave John one of my front teeth. I went to the dentist and I had them take one out and then they put in a plastic one, and I gave the real one to John in a matchbox. She was not that happy, but it makes me happy because it's really gross. And... :) no I didn't actually do that, but,I love that joke! Anyway, John gave me a Christmas card from her aunt from that I carry with me at all times. It's such a personal, such a special gift.
Number 8 - be honest about when you need more attention or when you feel insecure about the relationship, because those things will happen. You will feel weird during a long distance relationship, it's not an optimal situation. Talk with your partner about it so that it doesn't become this big problem.
Number 9 - long distance surprises. I've sent John flowers a few times, but it can be whatever. It can come down to texts, you know like, you send them a text like: 'Oh you're so pretty and I like how your armpits smell.' Or send flowers or, I sent a plushie recently and a game to John. You can also send snail mail, I think that's pretty popular. You can like, put small things in there like your teeth. :) Or your grampa's teeth,:)
Number 10 - keep busy and have other things that make you happy in your life. I think this one is really important as well - I said that about like everything, that everything is important. You can see it as actually having to distract yourself from the sad fact that you're apart from your loved one. But yeah, that was my tips on long distance relationships.
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Q: What is your best relationship tip? Leave it in the comments down below, I'll read them, I'll choose a favorite one and I'll feature it sometime. Have an awesome time, or night, or morning and I will see you later. Bye!