What is
Sexual harmony? If you look in the dictionary, it tells us that this (from Greek. Harmonia - bond, slenderness, proportionality) - mutual and complete physical and psychological intimate relationships. Given that sexual satisfaction is closely linked to psychological assessment of intimate relationships, and this degree of satisfaction depends on the level of maturity psycho-sexual maturity, age, sexual experience and much more, it can be assumed that
sexual harmony is possible in almost any couple.
The notion of “
sexual harmony” has physiological and psychological sides. Sexual and psychological relationship has dual causal relationship - on the one hand, sex affects relationship between partners and, on the other - their personal problems affect their sex lives. It often happens that sexual disharmony is as if side effect of psychological rift between spouses, which brokes their intimate life, but they believe that the cause of their mutual anger and dissatisfaction with one another lies in their sexual frustration.
And sometimes vice versa - dissatisfaction with sexual life causes a feeling of mental stress, discomfort, and hence people face family rifts, minor skirmishes, which are gradually accumulated, and people believe her life in marriage is miserable. That is, both components of intimate relationship - psychological and sexual - are closely linked and mutually influence each other.
Sexual relations within marriage are very important. If spouses have no
sexual harmony, it might affect their interpersonal relations.
Many marriages fail, and people do not even guess the true reason. Sexually discontented wife loses interest in sex and tries to avoid intimate relations. Of course, husband is also angry. Mutual sexual frustration manifests itself indirectly in bad mood, irritability, resentment against each other, petty chicanery. There are scandals with mutual accusations. At loggerheads people can remember each other all flaws and resentments. While divorce both think that the cause of quarrels are grievances, conflicts and intolerable nature of a spouse, although the real reason is that there is no
sexual harmony.Harmonious sexual relationships allow couples to overcome many tensions and find a compromise. Even if habit in the relationship is bigger than love, however, such a union can be very strong. After a hot night spouses do not recall yesterday’s divisions. If they feel good in bed, it is a real holiday, not only for body, but also soul. All this is so closely linked that it is simply impossible to distinguish one from the parts and determine which one is more important - sex or spiritual affinity.
Orgasm - a pledge of harmony?
There is a mistaken view that
sexual harmony can exist only when there is a simultaneous orgastic discharge between partners.
Evaluation of one’s relationship as
sexual harmony - a quite common phenomenon, especially given the fact that in some cases there is a so-called physiological one.
In these cases, many women do not reach orgasm due to insufficient sexual experience, however, consider their union sexually harmonious, especially when sexual partner’s behavior is fully consistent with her representations of an ideal.
Everything is individual
Sexual harmony for each person, each couple is individual and fragile.
Sometimes a change in the relationship can break a seemingly solid marriage, and vice versa: an afternoon quarrel can lead to a dramatic aggravation of sensuality and
sexual harmony at night.
You can talk about
sexual harmony, as in each specific affinity, as well as describing an extended period of sexual communication.
Life - at the hot passions
It is not only a strong sexual attraction. When two people intertwine their bodies in a passionate embrace and regularly give each other pleasure, they look at everyday life with other eyes. Though they live as a “cat and dog”, in their turbulent emotions, and then violent reconciliation that ends in bed, they find some kind of charm.
They are not bored, they do not get bored with each other, whole life - on the hot passions. Unlike many men, women are little attracted by physical satisfaction. A woman of any age needs a “game of love”, she wants a partner to struck her imagination suddenly due to his unpredictable behavior, so that she could once again experience acute feelings of fascination and novelty. And a man should take it into account, if he wants harmonious sexual relations.
Find out the reason
If a husband believes sexual intercourse became worse, if a wife began avoiding intimate relationships constantly, telling about headache, malaise, business - do not blame her, and identify the cause of cooling to sex. If spouses are married for a long time, they can talk frankly.
Ability to share with your closest man openly and confidence he will understand everything - this is a pledge of
sexual harmony. Maybe wife got tired of monotonous relationship and wants some diversity. Sexual intercourse in the same habitual scenario, even if a woman experiences sexual satisfaction, becomes uninteresting over time.
The most important thing - sexual altruism
Some women like gentle caresses, while others would like their husbands to be aggressive, as if he takes his wife by force, and she claims to resist, but within reasonable limits, of course, in the form of sexual game. But if a woman never experienced orgasm during intimacy, it is already a sign of formidable, and a man should take an initiative for normalization of sexual relations.
If your wife is constantly not satisfied, if you do not have
sexual harmony, most likely she is erotically non-awaken woman.
The most important thing is to be a sexual altruist. For harmonious sexual relations in marriage, it is desirable that sexual activity (sexual constitution) of partners would be the same or differ only slightly. A wife may have orgasm, but if she has a weak sexual constitution, “she does not need much.” For example, a wife is satisfied with one sexual act in a week or even less, and her husband with a strong or moderate sexual constitution wants more.
Incompatibility … this happens
Competing of sexual constitution and sexual incompatibility between husband and wife also can affect marital relationships. Husbands with a strong sexual constitution say that despite the fact they have been married for many years, they still experience strong sexual attraction to their wives, almost as in youth, and women with low sexual constitution either passively yield to her husband, or often denies her husband in vicinity, as well as her own sexual needs is much less than his.
If a husband is angry and demands “execution of marital debt”, this will not bring a good result. There will be quarrels, recriminations and resentment, and eventually it can lead to mutual cooling, and a woman may even lose interest in sex, because it is linked with negative emotions. In this situation, husband accuses his wife she loves him no more, or she is a cold woman. But if a woman experiences orgasm during sexual intercourse, even if she does not want to have sex as often, as her husband - this means she is not frigid. Her sexual constitution is just different. Even with obvious conflict between sexual constitution, you can always find a compromise, if not “obsessed” and not to do a tragedy from this.
Sexual harmony - the art of touch
Sex - is not only a mechanical coupling of two bodies. This is a total peak of all our feelings, attitudes, desires, expressed in physical closeness, enriching both partners. Any physical contact starts with touch, prelude of sexual games. Touch and sensation may talk very much.
First of all, this is an opportunity to say your partner about your feelings, desires, willingness to love without words. In addition, touches are comparable with sexual act. They can instill calmness, express confidence and support, intimacy and devotion. So the most important thing in sexual relationships - not knowing where to put your hand and where to kiss, but ability to give these touches special feelings.
It is because of ignorance of erogenous zones and the art of touches partners often encounter psychological problems that lead to damage of
sexual harmony.
Psychological factor is that “magic key” that opens a partner. Although some women claim they have no erogenous zones, in such cases, you can talk about ignorance of one’s erotic features, individual location of erogenous zones, methods of stimulation. The most common erogenous zones of a woman are placed on head skin, eyelids, lobe of ears, lips, tongue, mouth.
Famous psychologists argue that treatment of sexual coldness in women - is a journey in the area of erogenous zones, full of unbelievable discoveries. But to do this, partners will need time and patience.