I think I will not be mistaken if I say: just few people know
what is real flirting , and even fewer of them are able to really flirt. But there are also those who believe that
flirting is a foolish waste of time. And in vain …
Art of flirting lasts for many ages. Perhaps, since the times when more or less intelligent beings of different sexes (eg, mammals) appeared on earth. Mammals used it at the level of unconscious instincts, while people created sophisticated art of it.
If you look in explanatory dictionaries, we can find a
definition of flirting : “Love game. Coquetry.” Therefore, in relationship between men and women flirt was laid by definition. And by the way, it is done regardless of events during which these relationships are based - home, work, casual contact, traffic. Behavior of an individual is always sexually colored. Therefore, all flirt. Regardless of what they themselves think about their behavior.
Flirt can be confused with nothing Flirt is a special form of conduct, standing apart from everything. It should not be confused with any other, even though outwardly, perhaps, similar to a behavior such as love, courtship, beginning of serious relationships, sex prelude. Do not take
flirting for an attempt of adultery. If the definition of
flirting is “sexually colored behavior”, it does not follow that it must lead to sex. Moreover, classic
flirting does not necessarily ends in sex.
The main
task of flirting - intrigue, charm, cause interest, hit.
For flirting flirt itself is important, it is the purpose and means, without far-reaching plans. With
flirting , men and women seek to express their sexuality, emphasize sexual partners, establish primary sexual (immaterial!) contact: “I am - a woman, you are - a man.”
Flirt is more useful than love Benefits of flirting are obvious. After all,
flirting has all positive aspects of love, sexuality, and is deprived of all negative aspects of these relations. Flirt does not imply suffering, resentment, tears, conflicts and even dramas and tragedies.
Flirting people do not promise anything to each other.
You are not expected by disappointment of failure, because in the
process of flirting , you do not offer anything.
Flirting people just learn each other, get experience with the opposite sex. Undoubtedly, flirt teaches a culture of sexual behavior: an ability to express affection without words, and hold an interesting conversation.
Flirt benefits both young and mature, unmarried, and married. It adds the elements of game, lightness, ease, it helps to refresh senses. And by the way, it is noticed that those who can and like to flirt, are free and self-assured people, and less prone to stress.
In fact,
flirting is implementing two basic human needs - pleasure and communication. But, of course,
through flirting, you can also get a lot of other useful results.
For example, flirt - is:
• increase of self-esteem: “I am attractive, look well, I am interesting to the opposite sex”
• a so-called “behavioral training”, in which there is an opportunity to learn more about reaction of men and determine their degree of sexual exposure
• Business flirt, when the result is absolutely not about achieving sexual purposes - promotion at work, discounts on purchases, free services
• salvation from boredom, routine, everyday life.
What is flirt? Where to flirt? When can I do flirt? So. I think all now understand
what is flirt . Flirt - no sex, no courtship, no betrayal. Flirt - love game, starting with a game and ending with the same game.
The next very reasonable question:
where to flirt ? Imagine, everywhere. Experience has shown that there are no places unsuitable for flirtation. Men and women flirt with success in any place.
Still, to get a good flirt, you need to answer a question:
when can I do flirt? Because you need to objectively assess the situation and determine how to properly flirt in appropriate circumstances.
But the main thing - with whom? And the last thing you should answer - whom
to flirt with? Here you will have to evaluate yourself and a partner, and yourself for this particular partner. First of all, understand whether the object is ready to flirt, whether he is ready to love game. Do not impose flirt on someone, who does not want to take it. Flirt only with men, whom you feel equally attractive. But, of course, if a more attractive
man starts flirting with you - response him, he had already made his choice and thereby increased your chances. And evaluate your physical appearance not on standards of beauty, for
flirting you need charm, subtle spell, “spark” in eyes.
Speaking of
flirting we cannot ignore its components such as style, technique and rules.
• Style
To characterize
style of flirting we need cite a few key strokes: lightness, non-obtrusiveness, humor, limit in time (here and now), a dose of sexual energy, good and timely completion: “It was good to talk! Bye-bye!”
• Technique
Techniques represent all familiar, but may not always be consciously used forms of communication. These are gestures, they compose 70% of whole communication. These are looks, you should know how to send them the right way, catch and keep. These are touches, posture, intonation, and certainly tone of voice. Another important technical
point for flirting - an ability to choose an appropriate distance. They say that the psychological comfort zone includes approximate distance of 1.2 meters.
The basic rules of flirting • Rules
There are little
basic rules of flirting , but you should observe them:
- Do not
start flirting while long absence of sex, you will subconsciously seek other goal, than
flirting - Be correct in communication: do not interrupt, talk, listen, make pauses
- Use communication in a positive manner
- Do not forget about compliments, everybody likes them (especially men!)
- Do not try to flirt for whole life, after
flirting you should have a sense of mild hunger, like after a buffet table
- Please note, if
flirting does not constitute a prelude sex, it does not mean that it can not become it in case of mutual desire
- Always play with a partner on equal rules, do not deceive each other
Flirt is great, it is a pleasure, it is necessary. You just should be able to enjoy it.
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