What eternal values in life could you list? The good, love, beauty … Make sure this list also includes «friendship». We will not ask you are arranging them in order of priority (the problem is too complicated), but only call once again to remember how important friendship in our life is. Having a loved one close by, at first glance, we could compensate for missing friends who would walk along the life together with us and support in everything, but it is only the first glance. Whom do we contact during difficult moments, moments of joy, for advice, help, support, to share joy and sadness, complain or cry ..?
It is interesting
Psychologists identified: the way you assess best friends is connected with your perception of how they evaluate you. This new theory differs from usual perceptions of friendship, built by prosperity, popularity, or similarity of potential buddies.
Using the method of questions and answers, researchers conducted an experiment in which participants estimated the closest friends in some ways: for example, benefits that they receive from friendship, the number of secrets that they share, and a period during which their friendship lasted.
Regardless of whose opinion was studied - participants of the online community, bystanders or students in a laboratory - evaluation of friendship was closely associated with the assessment of one’s friends.
Probably every one of us is aware of the role friends play in our lifetime. Let’s talk about ways to attract and keep friends in your life.
We do not choose family, but we can choose our friends
Choose friends wisely. You do not need to be friends with everyone. Choose friends whom you feel comfortable with, help you developing, inspire you and treat you with respect. They say that we do not choose family, but we can choose our friends.
Hints
1. ListenListen attentively the other man’s words. Let him know you heard him. Ask questions, clarify details. Move up his story. This does not necessarily should be done through words; you can also use eye contact or body language.
2. Answer thoughtfullyThink before you speak - especially if you are angry. Sometimes one-minute pause in your speech might cross long years of damaged relations. Choose words carefully, and your friends will trust you.
3. Be openTrust is very important in relationships. Offer your assistance, and do not be afraid to ask for support when they need it. Decide your problems together.
4. Be honest, be yourselfNever pretend to be someone else and do not abandon your views to please someone. Be yourself.
5. Accept your friends the way they areYou probably are looking for friends who can take you. Remember they are looking for the same. Appreciate those who love you the way you are.
6. Be a friend, whom you would like to haveBe honest, kind, compassionate, fair, sincere. Becoming such person, you will start attracting same friends.
7. Dedicate time to your friendsSpend more time with your friends. If they have too busy schedule, you can mark those days when you can meet them. Show your friends you miss them and want to be close. Write them a letter, call or offer spending a weekend together. The fact that you are paying attention to friends makes them understand they are an important part of your life.
8. Spend fun time togetherIn friendship, as in all other respects, there sometimes happens standstill. This particularly likely happens when you meet each other and complain every day. Shake. Do something fun, new, nice to you both; you will have happy memories later. It is good when you have a friend who can help you break the routine at any moment.
9. Learn how to admit your guilt and apologizeWhen you do something wrong, admit it. Learn apologizing. Sometimes it is very important to recognize your mistake and say you have regrets about what happened. So you show you are not going to make the same mistake in future.
10. Learn forgivingYour friend caused you pain? You talked about it? You have received an apology? Forgive him and go further. Otherwise, your relationship will be gradually destroyed. Do not pull your past with you.
11. Give advice, but not interfereIf your friend asks your advice, help him. Perhaps he wants you to value an important e-mail, or he has problems with relationships - support him. But do not interfere in your friend’s life unduly, give him a chance to decide.
12. Keep your promisesIf you know you cannot implement something, do not promise that. And if you promised something, you should do everything to fulfill that promise. It is better to honestly admit: “I cannot do it,” than refuse at the last minute.
13. PraiseShow love to your friends, make them compliments, praise for good qualities and success. Your friend did something that caused you admiring? Tell him about it!
14. Express gratitudeLet your friends know you value your friendship. Speak or write them about it. Did you saw a collector’s issue of your friend’s favorite movie? Buy it and make your friend a surprise.
15. If he needs, set him freeFriendship is growing and changing. Sometimes it ends. You can change in just a year. Imagine how you can change in 10 years. You will never be the person you once were. Your views on life are changing. It may be that sometimes your friend takes a prominent place in your life, but your friendship can also weaken. If you feel you have no common interests and things to talk about, let this relationship go, do not try holding something that is already absent.